Menginstal CINTA

MENGINSTAL CINTA KE DALAM HATI

CINTIA : saya benar-benar butuh bantuan. Setelah banyak pertimbangan, saya memutuskan untuk menginstal CINTA. Apakah anda dapat membantu saya?

TEKNISI HATI : ya, saya dapat membantu anda. Anda siap untuk melanjutkan?

CINTIA : well, aku tidak paham hal-hal teknis, tetapi saya pikir saya siap untuk menginstalnya sekarang. Apa yang harus saya lakukan?

TEKNISI HATI : langkah pertama adalah membuka hati anda. Sudahkah anda mempersiapkannya?

CINTIA : ya, sudah, tapi ada banyak program lain yang sedang aktif. Apakah bisa menginstalnya sementara mereka berjalan?

TEKNISI HATI : program apa yang berjalan?

CINTIA : mari kita lihat ... Saya punya LUKA-LAMA.EXE, MINDER.EXE, DENDAM.EXE dan BENCI.EXE yang sementara berjalan sekarang.

TEKNISI HATI : tidak ada masalah. CINTA secara bertahap akan menghapus masa LUKA-LAMA.EXE dari sistem operasi anda. Mungkin akan tetap ada dalam memori anda, tetapi tidak akan lagi mengganggu program lain. CINTA pada akhirnya akan menimpa MINDER.EXE dengan modul yang disebut PERCAYADIRI.EXE yang tinggi. Namun, anda harus mematikan DENDAM.EXE dan BENCI.EXE. Karena kedua program ini akan mencegah CINTA tidak terinstal secara sempurna. Bisakah anda menonaktifkan itu?

CINTIA : saya tidak tahu cara mematikannya. Dapat anda ceritakan bagaimana?

TEKNISI HATI : Dengan senang hati... Mulai dari menu awal dan aktifkan MEMAAFKAN.EXE. Lakukan hal ini berulang kali agar menghapus program yang tidak anda inginkan.

CINTIA : oke, sekarang CINTA mulai terinstal secara otomatis. Apakah ini normal?

TEKNISI HATI : ya. Dan Anda akan menerima pesan yang mengatakan “program ini akan tetap terinstal untuk mengaktifkan hati anda. Anda melihat pesan tersebut?

CINTIA : Ya. Apakah sudah selesai terinstal?

TEKNISI HATI : ya, tapi ingat bahwa anda hanya punya program dasarnya saja. Anda perlu mulai menghubungkan dengan hati lain untuk mengupgradenya.

CINTIA : oops. ada pesan error. Apa yang harus saya lakukan?

TEKNISI HATI : apa pesannya?

CINTIA : ia mengatakan "ERROR 412 program tidak berjalan di komponen internal."

apa artinya?

TEKNISI HATI : jangan khawatir, itu masalah biasa. Itu berarti bahwa program CINTA diset untuk aktif di hati eksternal tetapi belum berjalan pada hati anda. Ini adalah salah satu kerumitan pemrograman, tetapi dalam istilah non-teknis ini berarti anda harus "menCINTAi" diri anda sendiri sebelum dapat "menCINTAi" orang lain.

CINTIA : jadi apa yang harus saya lakukan?

TEKNISI HATI : Sekarang buka direktori yang berjudul "penerimaan diri"?

CINTIA : ya, saya buka.

TEKNISI HATI : Bagus. Anda sudah mulai lancar dalam hal ini. Sekarang, klik file-file berikut dan copy ke direktori “MYHEART": MEMAAFKAN-DIRI SENDIRI.DOC, KESADARAN-DIRI.TXT, dan KETERBATASAN DIRI.DOC. Sistem akan menimpa file-file yang konflik dan mulai memperbaiki program-program yang error. Juga, anda perlu menghapus KRITIK-DIRI.EXE dari semua direktori, lalu mengosongkan recycle bin untuk memastikan file yang telah di delete benar-benar hilang dan tidak muncul kembali.

CINTIA : Hey! Hatiku kini terisi file-file baru. SENYUM.MP3 diputar di monitor saya sekarang dan itu menunjukkan DAMAI.EXE dan KEBAHAGIAAN.EXE sedang mencopy dirinya sendiri ke seluruh ruang hatiku. Apakah ini normal?

TEKNISI HATI : kadang-kadang, untuk orang lain butuh waktu, tetapi pada akhirnya semua akan terdownload juga. Kemudian, CINTA terinstal dan dijalankan. Jadi Anda harus bisa menanganinya dari sini. dan satu hal lagi ...

CINTIA : ya?

TEKNISI HATI : CINTA adalah software gratis. Pastikan untuk memberikan CINTA dan berbagai macam modulnya untuk semua orang yang anda temui. Mereka pada gilirannya akan berbagi dengan orang lain lg dan mereka akan memberi anda kembali beberapa modul sama hebatnya dengan yang telah anda berikan.

CINTIA: Pastinya! Terima kasih atas bantuan anda!

Blind Heart

A Story to live by……….

There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her. She told her boyfriend, 'If I could only see the world, I will marry you.'

One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend. He asked her, 'Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?' The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind. The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn't expected that. The thought of looking at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.

Her boyfriend left in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying: 'Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine.'

This is how the human brain often works when our status changes. Only a very few remember what life was like before, and who was always by their side in the most painful situations.

Life Is a Gift

Today

before you say an unkind word - Think of someone who can't speak.

Before

you complain about the taste of your food - Think of someone who has nothing to eat..

Before

you complain about your husband or wife - Think of someone who's crying out to GOD for a companion.

Today

before you complain about life - Think of someone who died too early on this earth.

Before

you complain about your children - Think of someone who desires children but they're barren...

Before

you argue about your dirty house someone didn't clean or sweep - Think of the people who are living in the streets.

Before

whining about the distance you drive Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

And when

you are tired and complain about your job - Think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job.

But

before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another - Remember that not one of us is without sin.

And when

depressing thoughts seem to get you down - Put a smile on

your face and think: you're alive and still around.

May you always feel loved

May you find serenity and tranquility
in a world you may not always understand.

May the pain you have known
and the conflict you have experienced
give you the strength to walk through life
facing each new situation with courage and optimism.

Always know that there are those
whose love and understanding will always be there,
even when you feel most alone.

May a kind word,
a reassuring touch,
and a warm smile
be yours every day of your life,
and may you give these gifts
as well as receive them.

May the teachings of those you admire
become part of you,
so that you may call upon them.

Remember, those whose lives you have touched
and who have touched yours
are always a part of you,
even if the encounters were less than you would have wished.
It is the content of the encounter
that is more important than its form.

May you not become too concerned with material matters,
but instead place immeasurable value
on the goodness in your heart.
Find time in each day to see beauty and love
in the world around you.

Realize that what you feel you lack in one regard
you may be more than compensated for in another.
What you feel you lack in the present
may become one of your strengths in the future.
May you see your future as one filled with promise and possibility.
Learn to view everything as a worthwhile experience.

May you find enough inner strength
to determine your own worth by yourself,
and not be dependent
on another's judgment of your accomplishments.

May you always feel loved.

By Sandra Sturtz Hauss © 1987

Between Love, Wealth, and Success

LOVE

"Three Old Men" Italy Circa 1535

By Paramigianino (Girolamo Francesco Maria Mazzola)

WHEREVER THERE IS LOVE...

A woman came out of her house and saw three old men
with long white beards sitting in her front yard.
She did not recognize them.

She said "I don't think I know you, but you must be hungry.
Please come in and have something to eat."

"Is the man of the house home?", they asked.
"No", she replied. "He's out."
"Then we cannot come in", they replied.

In the evening when her husband came home,
she told him what had happened.
"Go tell them I am home and invite them in!"

The woman went out and invited the men in.
"We do not go into a house together," they replied.
"Why is that?" she asked.

One of the old men explained: "His name is Wealth,"
he said pointing to one of his friends,
and said pointing to another one, "He is Success, and I am Love."

Then he added, "Now go in and discuss with your husband
which one of us you want in your home."

The woman went in and told her husband what was said.
Her husband was overjoyed.
"How nice!!", he said. "Since that is the case, let us invite Wealth.
Let him come and fill our home with wealth!"
His wife disagreed. "My dear, why don't we invite Success?"

Their daughter-in-law was listening from the other corner of the house.
She jumped in with her own suggestion: "Would it not be better to invite Love?
Our home will then be filled with love!"

"Let us heed our daughter-in-law's advice," said the husband to his wife.
"Go out and invite Love to be our guest."
The woman went out and asked the three old men,
"Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest."

Love got up and started walking toward the house.
The other two also got up and followed him.
Surprised, the lady asked Wealth and Success:
"I only invited Love, Why are you coming in?"

The old men replied together: "If you had invited Wealth or Success,
the other two of us would've stayed out,
but you invited Love, and wherever he goes, we go also.
Wherever there is Love, there is also Wealth and Success!"

... Especially For You ...

Where there is pain, may you have peace and mercy.
Where there is self-doubting, may you have a renewed
confidence in your ability to work through it.
Where there is tiredness, or exhaustion, may you have
understanding, patience, and renewed strength.
Where there is fear, may you have love, and courage.

~ Author Unknown ~

The gift of love

THE GIFT OF LOVE

The passengers on the bus watched sympathetically as the attractive young woman with the white cane made her way carefully up the steps. She paid the driver and, using her hands to feel the location of the seats, walked down the aisle and found the seat he'd told her was empty. Then she settled in, placed her briefcase on her lap and rested her cane against her leg. It had been a year since Susan, thirty-four, became blind.

Due to a medical misdiagnosis she had been rendered sightless, and she was suddenly thrown into a world of darkness, anger, frustration and self-pity. Once a fiercely independent woman, Susan now felt condemned by this terrible twist of fate to become a powerless, helpless burden on everyone around her. "How could this have happened to me?" she would plead, her heart knotted with anger. But no matter how much she cried or ranted, she knew the painful truth her sight was never going to return. A cloud of depression hung over Susan's once optimistic spirit. Just getting through each day was an exercise in frustration and exhaustion. And all she had to cling to was her husband Mark.

Mark was an Air Force officer and he loved Susan with all of his heart. When she first lost her sight, he watched her sink into despair and was determined to help his wife gain the strength and confidence she needed to become independent again. Mark's military background had trained him well to deal with sensitive situations, and yet he knew this was the most difficult battle he would ever face.

Finally, Susan felt ready to return to her job, but how would she get there? She used to take the bus, but was now too frightened to get around the city by herself. Mark volunteered to drive her to work each day, even though they worked at opposite ends of the city.

At first, this comforted Susan and fulfilled Mark's need to protect his sightless wife who was so insecure about performing the slightest task. Soon, however, Mark realized that this arrangement wasn't working — it was hectic, and costly. Susan is going to have to start taking the bus again, he admitted to himself. But just the thought of mentioning it to her made him cringe. She was still so fragile, so angry. How would she react?

Just as Mark predicted, Susan was horrified at the idea of taking the bus again. "I'm blind!" she responded bitterly. "How am I supposed to know where I'm going? I feel like you're abandoning me." Mark's heart broke to hear these words, but he knew what had to be done. He promised Susan that each morning and evening he would ride the bus with her, for as long as it took, until she got the hang of it.

And that is exactly what happened. For two solid weeks, Mark, military uniform and all, accompanied Susan to and from work each day. He taught her how to rely on her other senses, specifically her hearing, to determine where she was and how to adapt to her new environment. He helped her befriend the bus drivers who could watch out for her, and save her a seat. He made her laugh, even on those not-so-good days when she would trip exiting the bus, or drop her briefcase.

Each morning they made the journey together, and Mark would take a cab back to his office. Although this routine was even more costly and exhausting than the previous one, Mark knew it was only a matter of time before Susan would be able to ride the bus on her own. He believed in her, in the Susan he used to know before she'd lost her sight, who wasn't afraid of any challenge and who would never, ever quit.

Finally, Susan decided that she was ready to try the trip on her own. Monday morning arrived, and before she left, she threw her arms around Mark, her temporary bus riding companion, her husband, and her best friend. Her eyes filled with tears of gratitude for his loyalty, his patience, his love. She said good-bye, and for the first time, they went their separate ways. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday... Each day on her own went perfectly, and Susan had never felt better. She was doing it! She was going to work all by herself!

On Friday morning, Susan took the bus to work as usual. As she was paying for her fare to exit the bus, the driver said, "Boy, I sure envy you." Susan wasn't sure if the driver was speaking to her or not. After all, who on earth would ever envy a blind woman who had struggled just to find the courage to live for the past year? Curious, she asked the driver, "Why do you say that you envy me?"

The driver responded, "It must feel so good to be taken care of and protected like you are." Susan had no idea what the driver was talking about, and asked again, "What do you mean?" The driver answered, "You know, every morning for the past week, a fine looking gentleman in a military uniform has been standing across the corner watching you when you get off the bus. He makes sure you cross the street safely and he watches you until you enter your office building. Then he blows you a kiss, gives you a little salute and walks away. You are one lucky lady."

Tears of happiness poured down Susan's cheeks. For although she couldn't physically see him, she had always felt Mark's presence. She was lucky, so lucky, for he had given her a gift more powerful than sight, a gift she didn't need to see to believe — the Gift of Love that can bring light where there had been darkness.

~By Chaplain Jerry Vintinner
Contributed by Ellie in Albuquerque, New Mexico 

No Regret (A Husband Who Really Love His Wife)

LOVE

NO REGRETS

Not many people have heard of Bill Havens. But Bill became an unlikely hero of sorts — at least among those who knew him best. Here is his story:

At the 1924 Olympic Games in Paris, the sport of canoe racing was added to the list of international competitions. The favorite team in the four-man canoe race was the United States team. One member of that team was a young man by the name of Bill Havens.

As the time for the Olympics neared, it became clear that Bill's wife would give birth to their first child about the time that the US team would be competing in the Paris games. In 1924 there were no jet airliners from Paris to the United States, only slow ocean-going ships.

And so Bill found himself in a dilemma. Should he go to Paris and risk not being at his wife's side when their baby was born? Or should he withdraw from the team and remain with his family? Bill's wife insisted that he go to Paris. After all, competing in the Olympics was the culmination of a life-long dream. But Bill felt conflicted and, after much soul-searching, decided to withdraw from the competition and remain home where he could support his wife when the child arrived. He considered being at her side his highest priority — even higher than going to Paris to fulfill his dream.

As it turned out, the United States four-man canoe team won the gold medal in Paris. And Bill's wife was late in giving birth to their child. She was so late, in fact, that Bill could have competed in the event and returned home in time to be with her when she gave birth. People said, "What a shame." But Bill said he had no regrets. For the rest of his life, he believed he had made the better decision.

Bill Havens knew what was most important to him. Not everybody figures that out. And he acted on what he believed was best. Not everybody has the strength of character to say no to something he or she truly wants in order to say yes to something that truly matters. But for Bill, it was the only way to peace; the only way to no regrets.

There is an interesting sequel to the story of Bill Havens... The child eventually born to Bill and his wife was a boy, whom they named Frank. Twenty-eight years later, in 1952, Bill received a cablegram from Frank. It was sent from Helsinki, Finland, where the 1952 Olympics were being held. The cablegram read: "Dad, I won. I'm bringing home the gold medal you lost while waiting for me to be born."

Frank Havens (see photo) had just won the gold medal for the United States in the canoe-racing event, a medal his father had dreamed of winning but never did. Like I said — no regrets.

One of the most common complaints I hear from families is that they are not close. They may be close in proximity, but still not feel close as a family. They may live next door or in the same house, but not feel close emotionally.

Closeness is not about latitude; it's about attitude. We feel close when we feel understood, when we feel loved and when we simply enjoy being together. We may live far apart and still feel close, or we may share a home yet feel distant.

Closeness is a family trait that grows over time. It is planted by love, watered by honest sharing and fed by true listening. It grows slowly and sometimes takes years to mature; but its roots grow deep. It can weather most any storm and sustain a family through the most difficult of times.

I received a letter from a reader in Hawaii. She pointed out that the CEO of one of the island's largest banks was considering a run for governor. Since he is well-liked, he seemed to have a good chance of winning.

But, before filing papers, he changed his mind, stating that he wanted to spend more time with his family. Not that elected officials cannot be family-oriented, but he felt he needed more time at home than the job allowed.

Ronald A. Young, in the Honolulu Advertiser, said this about the candidate's decision: "No matter what you accomplish in the business world or the social world, if you fail 'ohana' [family], then you have not accomplished much. Failure or success does not lie in the material wealth you provide them. It is measured by what of yourself you give to them."

He made a decision to give the best of himself to "ohana." He chose family closeness first, despite pressure to put more time elsewhere. It's likely a decision he'll never regret.

Thomas Kinkade eloquently said, "When we learn to say a deep, passionate yes to the things that really matter... then peace begins to settle onto our lives like golden sunlight sifting to a forest floor.

~By Steve Goodier © 2002 and 2003 Life Support System
from his book: A LIFE THAT MAKES A DIFFERENCE